Anger- Denial-Acceptance

 I make the following observations after my daughters meltdown after I " stole " her " bath night "

 Todays teenagers are no strangers to anger. But are rarely shown denial. And just accept they are king. Hence the meltdowns when challenged. They cant handle it. Schools have taught them that they are never to be denied.

Her school has some new ideas on education. Pupils are taught not to use the phrase " I dont know " Instead they are taught to say they " have a knowledge gap " lol And it is not their fault, but the fault of the teacher. See what I mean about denial ? This kind of thinking is just coasting  in too trouble once outside the school bubble.

Her friends are the same. Ive heard them shouting at their parents over their zoom style phone calls with each other. They try to shout their parents down extremely aggressively. In order to challenge this you are consenting to a draining shouting battle in which your role as the adult is called into question by the sheer energy and will power of an adolescent. The battle is intense and long, un naturally so. 

It all starts when they are toddlers, and they watch and learn from each others parents reactions to bad behaviour. The confidence educators give them only intensifies their boldness. In my grandparents day this was " short circuited " with a little springy stick or in my childhood a slipper ! Not ideal, but has its removal brought peace ? Or has a greater " evil " arose in society and families in general ? 

They say violence breeds violence. Shouting just throws fuel on the fire in this house. When I was shouted at I submitted. My daughter does not. It just makes her worse. Maybe I should bring back the " naughty step " lol Seriously though im not sure how to curtail her. I dont think many parents do today. The old ways are unacceptable, and few new ones are suggested. Time rolls on and the products of this vacuum are manifesting without seemingly limits.

Better than a 70's Hammer film set ?

  Today after dropping my daughter off at a a cafe for her weekend job I decided to continue on to Aysgarth Falls, a local beauty spot. When the mist failed to lift it struck me as a great opportunity to take some photos in the old church yard once again.

I had to smile as it was Halloween today. As soon as I left the area the mist lifted and it was a lovely sunny, dry winters day again as I drove home. This grave yard looks like a film set. Thats what is bizzare about it.

I made a very good  fb reel panning around the grave stones and adding  Metallicas For Whom the Bell Tolls  lol. I dont know how but I will try and post it here.

Even Kendal is enriched now.

 Well I just heard a tale about a woman who was followed home by two Africans in the Olde Grey Towne of Kendal. Someone in my family employs a man who's  son is well known for being trouble with a capitol T in the town. 

Well he offered to walk the woman home as he could see what was going on. He maybe a lot of things but he obviously has a more caring side. Once he got her back to her home he decided to go and confront the two men, as he is known for being violent himself he felt quite confident in himself. However he got quite a shock when one of them pulled out a machete !

This is a new low for the town which has a good reputation, or rather had once. Soon violence will occur, but it wont appear in the local paper I think. Ive never known a town that covers up bad news so well. I guess the local MP is in cahoots with the paper.

The decline is speeding up. What once was unthinkable is now thought of as the new normal  as " its everywhere ". There was a stabbing the other week and my daughter just said " well thats Kendal " I flew off the handle, and she couldnt understand why. I was sad and frustrated that these things are now just accepted by young people as to be expected. in a town. I could not convey to her that when I was her age it was not this way. 

Here is another advert with a drug theme. A mainstream phone contract company too. It shows how far gone society must be, that this is deemed to not be distasteful to the majority of people nowadays.

 

We must prepare ourselves for the elements

 Its recently fallen to me that we now have to list or find the good points in life and re-enforce them before the ever growing tide of death and misery engulf us. Its the only way we are going to survive. Its as simple as that.

Do you aspire to be this ?

Taken from a clothes label Sweaty Betty.  She lucks happy and healthy, no ?

 

The very definition of surreal

Found it. Im going to have to watch the film again now...

 

Life can be cruel and vindictive

Ive recently found this old tv series while searching for the original Hammer House of Horror tv series from the 70's. I wasnt allowed to watch that back then due to my age, although some of my friends with less strict parents would tell me " next morning " at school about how scary it all was.

Anyway The Frighteners it seems was not a  tv horror series, rather tales of people who quickly find themselves in dire and dangerous situations. The stories are about 25 minutes long and are quick paced and gritty. Anything filmed during this period has a harsh look to it. They make today look so cushioned and soft ?

This episode has made it onto this blog because it is a good example of how life can give us so many instances that back up a fear we may have, or a worrying idea. The situations contained in this story are many and have all got explainable circumstances. What is unusual here is that there are a constant  orchestrated chain of them. The linking of this chain is the disturbing part here. What hope do we have when time and again life rams home conformations of our fears in a ridiculous manner. Well im old enough to hang onto that a bit of hope that the pattern is un-natural and disingenuous. Maybe it even has some kind of malice behind it. It does happen. It really does.

My Dad says that the old are invisible in public, but as people age they grow increasingly unaware of people in close physical proximity to them, sometimes not until until the last minute, and sometimes not at all. I guess age reduces our self awareness of what, or who is in our immediate sphere also ?