Anger- Denial-Acceptance

 I make the following observations after my daughters meltdown after I " stole " her " bath night "

 Todays teenagers are no strangers to anger. But are rarely shown denial. And just accept they are king. Hence the meltdowns when challenged. They cant handle it. Schools have taught them that they are never to be denied.

Her school has some new ideas on education. Pupils are taught not to use the phrase " I dont know " Instead they are taught to say they " have a knowledge gap " lol And it is not their fault, but the fault of the teacher. See what I mean about denial ? This kind of thinking is just coasting  in too trouble once outside the school bubble.

Her friends are the same. Ive heard them shouting at their parents over their zoom style phone calls with each other. They try to shout their parents down extremely aggressively. In order to challenge this you are consenting to a draining shouting battle in which your role as the adult is called into question by the sheer energy and will power of an adolescent. The battle is intense and long, un naturally so. 

It all starts when they are toddlers, and they watch and learn from each others parents reactions to bad behaviour. The confidence educators give them only intensifies their boldness. In my grandparents day this was " short circuited " with a little springy stick or in my childhood a slipper ! Not ideal, but has its removal brought peace ? Or has a greater " evil " arose in society and families in general ? 

They say violence breeds violence. Shouting just throws fuel on the fire in this house. When I was shouted at I submitted. My daughter does not. It just makes her worse. Maybe I should bring back the " naughty step " lol Seriously though im not sure how to curtail her. I dont think many parents do today. The old ways are unacceptable, and few new ones are suggested. Time rolls on and the products of this vacuum are manifesting without seemingly limits.